Improve `invalid_reference_casting` lint
This PR is a follow-up to https://github.com/rust-lang/rust/pull/111567 and https://github.com/rust-lang/rust/pull/113422.
This PR does multiple things:
- First it adds support for deferred de-reference, the goal is to support code like this, where the casting and de-reference are not done on the same expression
```rust
let myself = self as *const Self as *mut Self;
*myself = Self::Ready(value);
```
- Second it does not lint anymore on SB/TB UB code by only checking assignments (`=`, `+=`, ...) and creation of mutable references `&mut *`
- Thirdly it greatly improves the diagnostics in particular for cast from `&mut` to `&mut` or assignments
- ~~And lastly it renames the lint from `cast_ref_to_mut` to `invalid_reference_casting` which is more consistent with the ["rules"](https://github.com/rust-lang/rust-clippy/issues/2845) and also more consistent with what the lint checks~~ *https://github.com/rust-lang/rust/pull/113422*
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