Call FileEncoder::finish in rmeta encoding
Fixes https://github.com/rust-lang/rust/issues/117254
The bug here was that rmeta encoding never called FileEncoder::finish. Now it does. Most of the changes here are needed to support that, since rmeta encoding wants to finish _then_ access the File in the encoder, so finish can't move out.
I tried adding a `cfg(debug_assertions)` exploding Drop impl to FileEncoder that checked for finish being called before dropping, but fatal errors cause unwinding so this isn't really possible. If we encounter a fatal error with a dirty FileEncoder, the Drop impl ICEs even though the implementation is correct. If we try to paper over that by wrapping FileEncoder in ManuallyDrop then that just erases the fact that Drop automatically checks that we call finish on all paths.
I also changed the name of DepGraph::encode to DepGraph::finish_encoding, because that's what it does and it makes the fact that it is the path to FileEncoder::finish less confusing.
r? `@WaffleLapkin`
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