OOM handling changes
As discussed in https://github.com/rust-lang/rust/issues/49668#issuecomment-384893456 and subsequent.
This does have codegen implications. Even without the hooks, and with a handler that ignores the arguments, the compiler doesn't eliminate calling `rust_oom` with the `Layout`. Even if it managed to eliminate that, with the hooks, I don't know if the compiler would be able to figure out it can skip it if the hook is never set.
A couple implementation notes:
- I went with explicit enums rather than bools because it makes it clearer in callers what is being requested.
- I didn't know what `feature` to put the hook setting functions behind. (and surprisingly, the compile went through without any annotation on the functions)
- There's probably some bikeshedding to do on the naming.
Cc: @Simonsapin, @sfackler
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